So of course I said 'YES'!

by HijabMan :: posted 4 October 09

HijabMan’s Note: This Is A Guest Post By Future Mrs. HijabMan

Talk about coming out of nowhere; falling from the sky; turning up at the doorstep. Literally. I was enjoying life as a single mother. In this well regulated country, everything is predictable. Thus my daily routine of daycare drop-off – work – daycare pickup – dinner was timed to perfection. I know how fast to bike between traffic lights because I’ve memorized the timings of the lights. Bike too fast along this stretch and I would be wasting my energy as I’d have to wait at the upcoming red light anyway. Bike too slowly along the next stretch and I would have to waste precious minutes waiting for another cycle of lights to give me the green-GO. I also know that the timings vary depending on time-of-day and also day-of-week (yes, I’m a bit neurotic like that).

So I wasn’t quite prepared for what was about to unfold when I offered my apartment for the use of Hijabman, who was hired to photograph a mutual friend’s wedding. He actually arrived to an empty apartment as I was out of town for a conference and my daughter was with my parents. But the (in hindsight, Mission Impossible-like) note I left him, as well as previous instructions and accompanying directional photos, caught his attention. And he caught mine.

Being with Hijabman feels ‘comfortable’ – I’m happy to see him acting like a toddler when goofing around with my own toddler, and easily switching to a more responsible and authoritative figure when she starts on one of her tantrums; I’m delighted that he has no problems blending into the fabric of my larger family makeup; I’m ecstatic to find that it’s easy for me to fit into his own vibrant and decidedly ‘normal’ larger family dynamic.

Cue title: So of course I said ‘YES’! when Hijabman asked me to marry him. I’ve been on Cloud9 over the past week – meeting his family, getting engaged. Now I’m back amidst the reality of life and responsibilities at home, sans-Hijabman. But this feels very right. It feels permanent. And maybe it’s premature to be introducing myself so early. After all, we’re not yet married – anything could happen. But it does feel like Hijabman is here to stay. So we’ll be continuing our long distance romance for awhile until the rest of the pieces fall into place. In the meantime, do wish us well.

And readers… it’s a pleasure to make your acquaintance =)

— The Future Mrs. HijabMan

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1. Rabia N. at 4 October 09 :: #

   Mashallah guys! Congratulations to both of you!

   Inshallah, your lives together are going to be wonderful. :)

2. Nadiya at 4 October 09 :: #

   Hi!!! Mabrook to you both :)

3. nate at 4 October 09 :: #

   So happy for you three! Take care of each other, ok?

4. Rukhsana at 4 October 09 :: #

   Awww, MashaAllah!! Wish you guys both the best. It truly is a miracle of Allah SWT how things work out! SubhanAllah..

5. Fatma at 4 October 09 :: #

   Congratulations.
   As we say in Turkish: “Allah(cc)hu tamamina erdirsin.”
   Translation: “May Allah(swt) complete what you started – ie. get married soon.”

6. Jawad at 4 October 09 :: #

   I wish you very well. Might have been a surprise to you, but the rest of knew this was coming. He is a champion. I am sure you are too.

7. Humaira at 5 October 09 :: #

   Mr and Future Mrs Hijabman, I wish you the best wishes of this world and Inshallah a long and happy married life!

8. Mars at 5 October 09 :: #

   Aww—all the best to the both of you! Mashallah! :)

9. Aynur at 5 October 09 :: #

   Yaaay, congrats!!!!!!!!!! :)

10. ammena at 5 October 09 :: #

    masha’allah… congrats future mrs HM :) I look forward to some of your insights into life surrounded by him.. is he really as fun as he makes out? ;) lol.. or has he been blowing his own trumpet for all the time Ive been reading his blog and buying his tshirts :D

11. HijabMan at 5 October 09 :: #

    Ammena:

    I’m really boring. I don’t even play the trumpet.

12. Purvis The Muslim at 5 October 09 :: #

    Yayy!!! Congratulations to both of you, Masha Allah. I’m soooo happy to have had the privilege of hearing your story. Can’t wait to hear about the wedding, too! BTW, marriage is AWESOME!!!

13. Fatemeh at 5 October 09 :: #

    Barikallah and congrats! I wish you two all the happiness in the world!

14. Nadia AccidentProne at 5 October 09 :: #

    this was utterly sweet! congratulations once again :-)